I Remember

Hi Jamie,

It's November again. I'm running around, working and getting ready for holiday dinner. My brain has been jumping around on so many things and this time of year has snuck up on me...again.

Every November 25th, I'm hit with your memory and I find myself sobbing. Two days before Thanksgiving, I'll be working on something and I'll suddenly remember you. We buried you on November 26, 2003

Every November, the week of Thanksgiving, I remember the last time I saw you.  I remember the last conversation we had.

The last time I saw you, you were working the checkout counter, at the Cone gas station diesel fuel isle. The day I'd stopped by was the first time I'd seen you in months. I had been avoiding you.

It wasn't your fault, it was because I was afraid to run into my ex-boyfriend. You two had been friends since high school and I knew he hung out a lot at your place with you and Larry. And it seemed that every time I drove past your work, his car would be there. I guess I could have called, but I was scared that you'd be mad at me for the breakup with Matt. You had introduce us and he was one of your closest friends.

The day I stopped, I was on my way to somewhere else and I didn't have a lot of time. When I saw that his car wasn't there, I pulled into the parking lot. I ran back to your counter. I remember you looked a little surprised to see me.

I don't remember how the conversation started and I don't remember most of what we talked about. I vaguely remember telling you why I hadn't been coming around and why I hadn't called. You understood.

Sometimes when I think back to this conversation, I remember asking you if you were angry at me  and I remember you saying that the breakup was between me and Matt. You weren't mad at either of us. But I'm not sure this really happened because I've relived that last conversation every year since your death and the conversation changes in my memory.

I do remember that my eyes kept darting to the clock. Someone was waiting for me and I had to go. I apologized for not being able to stay.  You understood.

I said goodbye and turned to leave. I got three steps and turned back around.

My memory isn't the best, but I remember clear as day what I said. I asked you if you knew that I loved you. You smiled and said that you did and then you said that you loved me too. I remember smiling and then leaving.

People tell me that our last conversation was what it should have been.

But every year, Thanksgiving week, I'm suddenly struck with the memory that in November we lost you. We buried you on November 26, 2003. And the last thing I said to you was the best thing I could have said, but in my heart I will never feel like it was enough. And every year, during this week, I break down.

You stood by me during a dark time. You were there when I cried. You were always there to give me advice. And every November, I remember that you're gone.

What else is there to say?

I love you still.

My First Rock Repel

We did this repel twice. This was my first time down.

Age Gap

For those of you who read this blog, you might not know that I have two little sisters. 

As I type this, one is sixteen years old and the other is thirteen. I am *cough cough* thirty-five this year; which means there is a bit of an age gap. 

I've tried not to let it be to much of a problem and my sisters don't really tease me about it much, but there are times when it's tough. For example, when the older of the two was nine years old, she didn't think I was cool anymore. Up until that point, she thought I was pure awesome. Then one day she thought I was goofball. Well I am, but she was embarrassed of her goofball big sis and that kind of stung a little. 

 

You know when you get that song stuck in your head...and your heart.

Every time I hear this song my heart aches in a way that I can't explain. 

 Wiki link to the Icelandic hymn "Heyr himna smiður" or"Hear, Heavenly Creator"

Lessons from Childhood : Monsters in the Dark

Just a little sprout.

I have, for as long as I can remember, been afraid of the dark. My fear of the dark began as a baby; the reason for my fear is rooted in an experience I had but can't remember. My mother tells me that when I was a baby, she and my father were asked to house sit. Of course they took me along. I fell asleep and they put me in a bedroom; when I woke up in my strange surroundings, I began crying.  I was inconsolable and my father finally submitted that I would, "cry myself to sleep eventually." And so I was left in the dark, in a strange room, to cry it out. I know it sounds cruel, but it is what it is. When my mom tells the story, she still gets angry at my dad; as my dad insisted that I be left to cry it out. It was his version of "Ferberizing" before Ferber wrote the book on children's sleeping problems. In any case, I developed a fear of the dark.

My fear was cultivated by neighbor kids and my brothers, who were unaffected by a fear of the dark. I was teased about my fear and jokes were played on me constantly.  Sometimes they would pass by my room, reach in, and shut off the light; laughing while I yelled and cried. I was stuck to the spot while I waited for them to either get tired of their joke and turn the lights back on or for my mom to come and rescue me and punish the brats that had a laugh at my experience.

Bringing Harmony to your Habitat: Starting from Scratch

Here is a recount of my experience with the tornado that hit Tuscaloosa AL on April 27, 2011. I posted this on Facebook so that my family and friends would know what happened.

The day before the tornado (sometime in the early am) a water pipe in the apartment above ours burst and flooded two and a half rooms in our apartment. I had to do a lot of rearranging to make room for the fans and dehumidifiers. A third room had a tiny bit of water under a small table, so I moved the table into the living room to get it out of the workers way.

The day of the tornado I was in the computer room typing away on a story when my mother called and told me about a tornado in Tuscaloosa. I got off the phone and called Steven, who was on campus, to get more information. Steven, thinking it was somewhere else, told me that we should be all right.